We can choose to describe our world and the relationships we have with it, or judge it. When we judge, we become dualistic and focus on our likes and dislikes, what we consider to be good or bad, right or wrong, better or worse.
‘I hate this, love that.’ ‘I don’t like him, I like her.’ ‘That was awful, this is great.’
We can become a critic of life, basing our interactions on what we think is good or bad. Could a life changing shift in perception happen during the times we simple describe instead of judge?
If I try a new tea, my initial instinct might be to decide if a like it or not. If my first impression is that I do not enjoy it, then the experience is over. I stop, and move onto something else I might like. My options and possibilities are defined by what I think I like or that are right, and what I dislike or think is wrong.
If I try the tea and describe, will I develop a different relationship with the tea? I can engage with the image, smell, taste and temperature. I can even begin to describe the feeling of the tea inside me, along with my response to it. In all of this there is no need for good and bad, or right and wrong, thinking, just awareness. I become sentiant.
In my describing state, I become more aware of my senses, and out of that find it easier to connect to the world I inhabit. When I am more judgemental, the internal conversations become more about me and my responses, potentially creating a greater disconnection with my world.
Where I find describing most influential, is in my relationships with other people. The more I can stay in describing, the easier it is to be open, accepting, engaged and inclusive. If I judge, the risk is that I separate, create boundaries and distance myself.
Naturally, I can choose between description and judgement, I can give myself the freedom to be in either state, and out of that be aware of the differences in my perception of life.
It can be fun to play with description. Imagine we are describing life to someone, become creative with our descriptive language. Writing, talking, poetry, keeping a diary, story telling and creating lyrics are all ways to develop our descriptive language. How would describe the old wall in the image at the top of this page? Where this becomes most profound is when we can think in a descriptive language, as this ultimately becomes the updated software of our minds.
The descriptive words contribute to a new attitude, freeing us from limiting judgements. Could we dissolve the habit of judging things to be not to our liking, and move into training ourselves to be better able to engage in a wider range of sensorial experiences?
Copyright Simon Brown, London, 2012